Hanssie: In The In Between ~ A Kiss & Tell About The Journey Of A Suddenly Single Gal In Life, Love & Photography »

Masthead header

Dating Rules: Paying Etiquette

Yay rules! Yay dating!

Oh wait. The opposite of both of those.

I’ve been having this discussion lately with a few people about who should pick up the check on a date.

It’s the general consensus that the man should always pay on the first date. A few months ago, I was watching “How I Met Your Mother,” with the roommate and one of the characters was turned off because the woman made no move to pay on the first date. I turned to my roommate and said, “Wait a sec, a girl is supposed to offer to pay on a first date??” The thought had never crossed my mind. I mean, I’ve always watched my dad pick up the bill, no matter what. I just assumed a man pays on the first date (and a good number of them thereafter. And since I haven’t made it past the third date with anyone, I hadn’t needed to cross the bridge). My roommate informed me that I am supposed to at least make a move like I’m fighting for the check. My Hitch says that I am suppose to offer on the third date and if he should decline if he’s a gentleman.

So I figure, I’d better get to the bottom of this before I actually find someone to go past date #3 with.

Internet, am I wrong? Am I too old fashioned? Should I be offering to pay on a first date or the third date or any date? I am of the mindset that the man pays for most dates while he is wooing me. At some point, I, of course would start offering because I would start to feel like a mooch. Or if I initiated the date, I should pay. Maybe I should Google this. Is it on Wiki?

Rules. Rules. and more rules. No wonder I can’t seem to master this dating thing.

Related Posts Plugin for WordPress, Blogger...
Shaina - December 31, 2012 - 10:39 am

I think it should be who made the plans for the date…. IE: If I asked him, I would gladly pay(although I wouldn’t ask or make plans, unless we had been together past the “first dates”)

So I guess that wouldn’t help this situation, but if a man wasn’t willing to pay or gets turned off by the fact that I didn’t reach for the bill then we aren’t ment for each other.

Katie - December 28, 2012 - 10:46 am

Hmmm. Now this is interesting because I hadn’t even thought about it. Considering I haven’t been on a first date yet.. but I, also, assumed the man is supposed to pick up the check. Isn’t that customary?

Having said that, when thinking through a first date, I *would* probably offer to split it. That way, I have an out if the date hasn’t gone too well. Like.. oh I’ll pay my share – if he takes me up on it, I know that things aren’t going any further. If he doesn’t (which is the correct response!!)… then there you have it.

Your email is never published or shared. Required fields are marked *