Recently, I took the popular StrengthFinders 2.0 assessment to, well, find my strengths, duh.
In my top five strengths, I saw the word “Woo.” And I laughed.
Wooing – the act of meeting new people, winning them over and making a connection with another person.
Yup. That’s me. Which is why I love my job with UNDFIND. I woo people. I like to joke and say that my job is to shake hands and kiss babies. I connect people and I socialize. I’m the Kim Kardashian of the camera/laptop bag world. Haha.
People that have “Woo” as a strength are described as (and you tell me if this sounds like me)…
~Driven by their talents
~ Instinctively candid and forthright with others about their challenges, happy moments and sad events
~ Freely gives individuals their time, energy and expertise
~ Enjoy the companionship of others and relish social activities
~Talkative nature may permit them to say what’s on their mind
And for these very reasons, I suck at dating. Apparently, you aren’t supposed to say everything that comes to your mind on a date? If I am too forthright with my baggage, I’ll scare people off. If I give too much, then I’m desperate and not a challenge and become boring…All these rules. Sigh.
Right after my very first date after the divorce, (before the jerk texted me and inappropriately propositioned me) I remember on the way home calling my friend and telling him that I hated dating and never wanted to do it again. Why? It felt like work. Like I’m at my job. I’m selling. I’m woo-ing. And I’m not even getting paid for it…
I should’ve been born in another era. I want the man to woo me. (And not have 4 other “options” whom he’s also “woo-ing.”) Men, you don’t need to go overboard and get all “The Notebook” on me (I don’t need flowers, chocolates and teddy bears), but do a little chasing for sure and definitely make the first move. If you expect me to make the first move and ask you out on a date, we’re never going out.
Annnndddd… Reason #653 Why Hanssie is still single…